Today we continue on
our journey of understanding ourselves. The last time we realized the three
personalities that are in us, and we delved deep into the first one the C part.
I know that some of you don’t really agree with that ideology but if you did
your homework of self-analyzing then am sure you can see the truth of this
entire subject. Many times I have heard from different people complaining and
saying statements like, “I feel like am his mum or something, can’t he grow up,
he is so immature,” and I have always found myself saying that I will never
want to date a lady whom I will start parenting.
Human beings are
relational beings and that means they must have some common grounds for the
relationship to be smooth. Whenever this personality is portrayed two people
need to think alike, they both need to be adults. An Adult personality has
always contravened the childish personality. When people talk of serious stuff
then the childishness has to take a nap and a really deep one. Conflicts arise
whenever we handle things with the wrong personality. We need to understand
when and where we have to be adults and when and where we can be childish. Whenever
people are in a social gathering having fun and expressing their childish part
by dancing and shouting in excitement, then we need not to start reasoning and
analyzing the essence of all that
.
I love the fact that
our loving father also the creator made us all unique in so many ways, wow the
father is really creative I tell you. Imagine you are the only you in this
entire universe and there can only be one you at a time. Having said that then
we need to realize that everybody reacts differently to every situation and our
three personalities are also expressed with uniqueness just like our natural
nature. Take an example, have you seen when girls meet after 3 days, they shout
like crazy. They never care who is looking at them, a true indication of the
childish part in them. Ladies please don’t get me wrong here, I don’t mean to
say that you are childish; I ‘m just saying that that is a natural expression
of the first personality. Look at men, when their teams scores, most of them
forget there manners, jump without thinking where they are going to land, shout
and blow the annoying loud vuvuzellas, that is natural.
When it comes to being
an adult, a clear distinction needs to be drawn. We need to see the transition.
When talking things that needs attention and reasoning then maturity needs to
be portrayed, we need to mature up at that point something that everyone has
the ability to do am sure. It’s really of great importance that these two
personalities are not confused or used in place of the other. Our daily
interaction needs us to grow up and think like adults. This is important in the
conflict resolutions, in solving problems and also in associating with people
of different calibers.
Most of the problems we
are experiencing in our social world right now are just as a result of confused
personalities. Most of the divorces are not drawn from unfaithfulness; people
just become tired of trying to understand the other one. The wars in the communities
are because we lack the reasoning ability of an adult. Those grudges we walk
with daily, is because we have allowed our C part to dominate our lives and denied
the A part a chance to dance. C.S. Lewis once wrote that; critics, who treat ‘adult’
as a term of approval instead of a merely descriptive word, cannot be adults
themselves. Adulthood needs to describe the person in accordance to behavior
not physical appearance, age, or the social class they found themselves in.
Both C part and the A
part are important in our day to day lives, but for sure not complete without
the P part, i.e the Parent part. But let us think through this before we sum up
our journey of understanding ourselves.
Wake up lets journey
on…
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