Balance of personality
is one of the hardest things to do especially in a relationship. People have
different personalities and totally unique characters. The angry types are
there the quiet kind too. The cleaning ones and careless ones, people have been
married to all forms of characters and still survived the nightmares that are
supposed to last till death knocks at the doors of life. That is a very long
time to have to live in a nightmare, and for sure no marriage or relationship
is supposed to last in such kind of rocky grounds. Am sure you have heard
people say, mmmm he is not my type, or he gets so much into my nerves, we just
can’t get along but he question is why? Why does he get into your precious tiny
nerves, why can’t you get along, why?
In every grown up human
being there are always three personalities that are very evident; the child
part, adult part and the parent part. Every person can become childish and with
this I don’t mean eating the soil ground or crying every time your parents
don’t come home, but its more than that. An adult think around ideas, gives
opinions, makes decisions and argue out ideas, a personality that should be in
every one. Parents are responsible, they point out directions, give orders, they
lead and protect, parents defend their beloved ones and they provide too, in
your personality that is a must.
People think that a
sense of humor makes you not serious, but what they forget is that laughter
makes us live longer. Sometimes the excitement of a child needs to be seen in
our serious faces. I believe that
children are the only people who don’t hide their feelings. They know how to
bring their characters with honesty and without being ashamed of what we will
think about them. Kids are very truthful, honest and they know how to trust, that
is a great character that should not
lack in us, no wonder Jesus said that unless we become like them, then no
heaven for all of us.
In a relationship
context this personality is important, we need to be open to our feelings, we
need to be honest with our spouses and tell them the truth that is in our
minds, we need to trust them with our hearts and decisions, we need to humble
ourselves and be happy with what we have at the moment. All these can be learnt
from kids, so next time you call your boyfriend or girlfriend, childish then
you are lacking a very important trait of the human genetic makeup.
Have you seen when kids
are angry? They tend to cry a lot, they
can whine and do all the things that they can think about, they utter words in
their baby language and fight whatever they find at their disposal. That is
what a child should do, they don’t have what we call anger management and I am
not shocked to see such kind of habits in grown up especially in advanced modes.
When grown-ups are mad they tend to utter things that don’t makes sense, some
tremble and throw things, some break glasses and turn over the tables, a true
proof that in every person there is a childish part. It’s so normal for such
things to come about, it’s in born. There is always that part of everyone that
will never grow up, actually it just get better with time.
People find it
hard to relate to others because they things they are childish and not mature,
but remember maturity don’t come with age, but responsibilities, it’s about
balancing the elasticity of desires and contentment, which kids can be very
good at. Being a child once in a while is a normal thing if you look at it the
above perspective. It’s a personality that helps us understand ourselves, so
it’s not a weakness or anything to be ashamed of. But like I said there are
three personalities which need balancing for us to relates well with one
another, the other two need to accompany the child part of our lives, but thinks
around the first one first, analyze yourself and ask yourself questions like,
how much childish am I? Or do I have a child part at all?
Wake up lets journey
on…
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