Love is not logical.

My recent best friend just told me that love is not logical and its one of those things that are really hard to understand. This was somehow confusing coz am one of those people who wants to pin logic in everything around me. Now I have a very different few about this word or feeling or this thing we call love. Looking at it from a different perspective has given me the courage to come with terms that love and logics are immiscible. The dictionary has defined love in very few words which really does not bring out the point that I want to bring out now. The dictionary says love is a feeling and strong affection towards something, now that is very logical but just like my best friend said love is never logical.

The bible says that for God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son just that we will be saved. It goes ahead and says that he endured pain so that we can have a life through that, now tell me where is the logic behind that deed. Looking at love from the biblical perspective now makes me  realize that love is more than some feeling or affection or something we want to call it. When you love someone then you love them with your all, just like God gave himself for us to experience freedom. Now guys freedom is the word here, freedom is when you are allowed to make choices that govern your life and when freedom lacks in the love relationships then that’s not true love. It’s been said over and over again if you love somebody then you will let them be what they want to be.

The most hard thing for a lot of relationship is the break  up part, people have taken their lives, others have decided to drink to death, people have changed their sexual orientation and others have even quitted their dreams and goals in life, am not saying that all this is silly or immature but I just think we break up wrongly that is why we go ahead and do all these things. Imagine somebody has been part of your life, has been your friend, consolation and has always wanted the best for you and then they are gone, life becomes dark but that’s not the end of life. When you play the scales of the guitar, the last note always marks the beginning of a new one; it sounds different but still fits to the music, that is the course break ups should take.

I have always said that your past should not drag you behind but should be a stepping stone for the future and this is the beginning for us to come to terms with reality, I know you will say he or she is your life and without them you will die, but if you love them then it means you love ‘you’ and you should love them just as much as you love yourself and if you want the best for them then you should also seeks for the best for you, I know this is not logical, but I told you love is not logical.

I have never understood how you love so much then start hating the next moment, the bitterness that we allow to grow in our hearts is the source of all the unpleasant outcome s of break ups. People can still be friends and really good friends, but it takes a mature mind to come to that reality.  Loving someone is to want the best for them, and since its only God who can give that to them then, ours is just to accept the different forms of fate and destiny pray to God and be happy for them. When you love someone then let them be happy and always pray for their happiness even if you not part of it and if you love somebody then you becomes their friends and be there for them whenever they need you.

I have just told you about my recent best friend who once wrote me these words and I quote;’ if one dream should fall and break into 1000 pieces never be afraid to pick one of them and begin again. I really love this friend of mine for the wisdom, passion and love that I have gotten. This friend is the best friend ever and the noblest person I have ever met and the words I have learned from my best friends are framed in my heart. Let’s go back to the drawing board and think again, let’s not pin logic to love and lets love the way God loves, with no selfishness or bitterness and always watching our back, always being the friend we need and the best lover of all, God loves us even when we don’t want to be with him and this is true love, always dreaming for the best and always wanting the best for them.

Relationships are two way traffic and both parties have to give their part, but love is one way traffic and that means loving without expecting to be loved. Let’s love like God, let’s stop expecting to be loved, demanding for love, trading for love, gaming for love, let’s just simply love, let’s give ourselves today and do it tomorrow again and let’s give the clock itself to wear thin its time, and till we do that we will never understand the gravity that pulls us to the ones we love.

Wake up lets journey on.