Hope changes Everything

 

I have heard people saying  That what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, that’s  quite a relaxing analogy, but again think a bit out of that relaxing notion, what if we outgrow our inner strength and we can’t just handle it no more. What if life has hit us to the walls that all we see it us drilling through it or getting stack to wine and eventually die, not of the life tough catastrophes but of the boredom of staying in that same room of complains? Those who are believers like me, know for sure that God has good plans for us, and he has this awesome plan to make us prosper, but let’s be realistic, everyone one want to know when. When is this prosperity plan going come? Tomorrow? Next year? 10 years from now? When?

Talk of tarmacking, hustling to put food on the table if you even have a table, talk of working hard that you can see your future brighter than what it looks right now, and then when you think you are at the crest, you fall all the way to the ground, and then you are told just dust off your clothes and climb again? That sounds ridiculous, it’s selfish even to think of saying that to someone,

I know people go through hardships and am not here to encourage you that they will stop and one day all will be okay, because I myself I have been waiting for that to happen and it has not. I keep saying to myself that there is still time for all that to come, God is not asleep in the situations we face and he will help us get a way to deal with it. There’ s always a light at the end of the tunnel, I know but sometimes we are tired of walking in those dark tunnels that you just want sit down and get used to the darkness. 

Everyone know where their shoe pinches, only those facing the darkness understand how is feels not see where you are heading to, and honestly speaking I can never blame them for giving up, I can never call them cowards for deciding that enough is enough, because who am I to judge what I am not feeling. People have given up in life and taken their breathing to the dungeon because they have failed in life, or because they have been heart broken, some have cling from the ceiling because they lost all their wealth and many others. We all have different stories, but one thing is common, we all have reasons for doing what we  do, good or bad, that’s your own judgment those whose doing it, find their reasons convincing enough. 

My prayer is not to see people giving up and letting go, my prayers is to have people who are going to stand firm next to us, people who are going to offer some glimpse of light in those tunnel, people who are going to take away those ropes that have been used before, people who are going to care, not because they benefit but just because they love us. 

Rain doesn’t pour on our roofs every day, but for sure it pours somewhere else, at least it is raining somewhere every day. Maybe one day it will be on your roof, you just need to wait. Let others enjoy the rain while they still can, one day it will be your turn. People are born and die, life still goes on, people work so hard to get where they are and one day bankruptcy just hit like a tornado.  People get married for death parts them but after sometimes they file divorce cases because they can’t stand each other. That’s life deal with it. If you want some paradise where everything goes well for you then you are in a wrong planet. As long as we are here on earth we are in for a lot of surprises and giving up or getting tired of it is not going to take it away, for maturity is built on a maintained elasticity of discontentment and complacence.

Let’s wake up and journey on.

Grace lived by the Law

The world of literature has been spattered by the famous writing about success. Everybody is writing about the principles of success. Now I am sure just by looking at the book shelves in our rooms we can spot those books I am talking about. Everybody have them and actually they are really selling out there. Maybe some of you still don’t really grasp what am talking about, let me be more detailed. Probably you have seen if not read books decorated with titles like; 10 steps to a successful marriage, or 5 languages of love, 5 ways to be a successful business man, 10 steps of Raising mature kids. Have you read or rather seen such books, with steps, protocols to follow for something to happen, doing an A to attain a B? Well now I am sure you have turned to the page I was referring to.

There is nothing wrong with these writings, actually people have researched and develop facts that they work, well in some cases I must say they don’t.  Everyone is after happiness, I call it Self exaltation. We all want to feel good and want to see things happening the way we want and that’s why we have sunk deep in finding ways of making that possible. The most disappointing part of the whole effort is when things don’t work out the way we hoped they would.  What will you say if you hear words like I have been married to you for 10 years but I still feel the urge of exercising with the same sex individuals or your kid one day come to you and say, hi mum am guy.  Am sure you will shout words close to, “where did I go wrong?”

Where is the guarantee that by doing A we will for sure attain B? Who gives us that assurance that when we do things we will for sure achieve the kinds of results that we are looking for? The answer is NOBODY. It’s not promised anywhere, that all our effort will result to something good, sometime it doesn’t.  Let’s dig deeper in the Christian life. We have been encouraged with our pastors at home how things work for good of those who love the lord and have been called according to his purpose. We have been told that the only thing that awaits our lives once we are saved are good things, ‘blessings’ per say. We have been given steps to follow for a mature Christian life, and myself I have said this myself; read your bible, pray so persistently, testify and witness, then you will be a strong Christian, we have been told how to pray. Start by adoration, then confession, thanksgiving, and then petition, very practical and scriptural if you ask me. Recently I was even told about the hours of prayers for a mature Christian, not just the morning prayers we make when you still contemplating whether to get out of your fluffy blanket.

Christianity and life in general have been reduced to self. It’s all about us, what we want, what makes us happy. It’s a long issue to address but just to finally say what I have been trying to say this whole time, Christianity, marriage, life and anything you have in mind is not a bed of roses. And if it is then roses have thorns and once in a while you will feel the pain. Maybe you disagree but here is the truth, peter writes in 1 peter 4.12 that we should not be surprised when we face suffering as if it’s something strange. That means it’s not strange when a Christian suffers. Please don’t stop reading, I know I’m not writing what you want to hear, but again that’s the point, we only want to read what hide the truth from us.

Here is an eye opener, the bible says in Galatians 5.2,4 that God has nothing to do with anyone who tries to achieve blessing in life by their own efforts, actually Paul write, and I quote, “mark my words! I Paul, tell you that if you let your self be circumcised, Christ have no value to you at all” in other words Paul is saying Christ promises no help when you make it your ultimate goal to secure certain blessings by doing good things (Larry , pressures off).

There is no guarantee that life will always be what we want it to be, whether you read volumes of success books, whether you pray so hard, whether you read the whole bible 3 time in a year, God promises you no good life just because of what you do, that’s actually living according to the law something that Paul says, God has nothing to do with. Larry writes, when any ambition other than drawing near to God assumes the first place significance in our hearts, whether the ambition is blatantly self-serving or clearly kingdom advancing, we are living according to the law.

We should be careful not to reduce the biblical principles to the basic principles of the world when followed in order to gain the better life we demand, because they are meant to do only one thing in life and only one, to draw us near to God and nothing else.  The bibles rebukes, teaches, corrects but all that is meant to draw near to God and not to make life works for us.  Let’s still read these books, lets encourage one another with the biblical teachings, lets fast and pray and do all we feel is best fit for the blessing we want but after all that never  go to God and stretch you hand demanding if you your ambition for doing all that was for self-exaltation and not drawing closer to God.

Let’s wake up and journey on.

My parents, my heroes

 Everybody has a role model in their lives, everyone has that special person that they always want to run to and ask for advice, or read something about or sit down and learn from. It’s an essential thing in life to have mentor, to mentor and have a colleague that challenges your way of thinking. People in this generation have accused the older generation of not being there to mentor them or offer a good example to follow, some parents have really not been there to see their kids grow to become people of substance in the society and even some leaders have planted themselves in the leadership position that they can’t be replaced.

Parents have been the greatest mentors of all times, they never had to go for mentor ship programs to be taught how to do it, but a natural talent. Some of their methods have been debatable by us the children, but they have always proved us wrong with time. There is a Swahili proverb that says if a child is not natured by the parents then he will be natured by the world. This is to say that when the world natures you, it’s minus care and patience, but a package of hardship and suffering. 

Growing up in the ghetto taught me a lot of things, made me realize it was not that easy for my parents to have naughty kids like us. I was a naughty kid and my mum will have to run after me all the time to come and do my homework or take a bath. In those days, mum will never allow us to watch television without having taken a shower or done our homework.  Those with the same experience like mine will remember how we used to shower, especially in the dark. You will go to the dark bathroom, and start splashing water on the wall just to create some sound an indication that you are showering, then I would nicely wipe my dirty legs and clean my hands and head and storm out of the bathroom, with a broad smile.

Like I said earlier parents have natural talents of being parents and my mum would know if I showered or not the first minute I entered the room. She would give me a slap and I found myself willingly back to the bathroom, this time showering for real. My mum didn’t hate me as I thought then, but just cared in a tough way something that I appreciate right now because I love showering. My dad on the other hand was a quiet guy, didn’t say much. I used to prefer the punishment from him because he would do it quietly and shortly, not like mum who will make it so publicly to the neighbors that his son didn’t like to shower, no wonders Lavender the girl next door didn’t like my vibes so much.

Parents make mistakes too, they are humans and that’s to be expected, but this is one thing I never understood when I was growing up. My mum and dad were always right, always so bright in school and knew all things. My dad has always been my hero, because he knew everything. He had answers to every question and with mum it was the same. This made me want to be like them all the time, a genius. All parents of our times were geniuses, but now I know it was just a mask to help us work hard, they lied to us yes but at least they made us want to strive for better positions in life. 

Parenthood is not an easy job, but if my dad and mum were able to bring me up to this level that I am then they did a perfect job. The natural talents they supported in me and the creativity we developed is all because of there patience and love. My dad did his very best and am so proud of him, and mum did well too. Looking back now I can say that I am who I am because I had the best dad ever and I have the most loving mum. Life will have been impossible without these too, and they will always be my heroes. Dad had his mistakes, but he was a loving father who loved his kids, mum is always right but I love her and she will never give up on us. Parents are the best gift we ever received from God and as long as we are alive then they are always alive, our failures becomes there’s too and our successes also tag them along.

wake up lets journey on.

Pure love

Love drowned from the deepest point of the heart is always reflected on the face, when you hurt, from the deepest cuts or frown or smile the image can still be seen because the heart keeps beating with the rhythm of the sound of their name. I have served that love that takes you high above all that you deserve and for sure I know it’s the best service anyone can found themselves in. I know what love means, I know how it feels, I know what it is. Love in its true form. I believe everybody is special in God’s  sight and I can’t dispute the fact that he made all things special, but some people seem more perfect than the others, it’s like God took more time with them, made them more special than the others. God gave them more patience than the rest of us, God gave them a special heart than the others and for sure God made their physical nature more beautiful than the others.

I know all these because I have experience all these. The one person that you meet and your entire life becomes new, the life becomes a paradise on earth, you feel each day like you living in the special realms, in a beautiful environment, everything feels special around them, you have joy always around them and just the thought of them brightens your face. Experience all that and for sure you are in love.

It might be a coincidence that God brings special people in our lives when we need it the most, but now I know that its destiny, he just know what the best for us. God loves us so much that he always brings us his special angels, who makes us happy and make us feel loved. True love comes with the package of patience, laughter, stupidity and all the fun in being ourselves, someone who accepts you for you, who loves you for you, somebody who doesn’t fight to change you but compliment your worse nature with their beautiful selves, making a special progeny.

People have associated love with physical attachment, but true love is a matter of faith, believing in that one person who come and captures your inner soul, who helps you believe in the impossible, a person who helps you understand the pain, helps you carry the burdens of your heart. You know you are in love when you still feel their presence even if you can’t see them, when you see them everywhere you went together, when every time you click a search button in your phone, it records their names first. You know you are in love when every time you feel pain in your heart, the thought of their smile makes your feel some special peace.

I have learnt how to love through tough times, I have learnt how to love through good times, but the most important thing is I have experience true love, pure love, special in its own way, unique in its kind and everlasting in nature. Am loved and this one I know, am treasured and this I have experience, I am the luckiest man in existence because I am love by the, most beautiful, special and unique person God once created. I am looking so forward for eternity, for words like I do. Am looking forward to love forever and never looking back. Am looking forward for that special day when I will have the chance to say all these right to her face and not blink even once, but say all the truth in my heart and everything that I feel in my entire system, am looking forward to meet her.